Elopement Guest Guide: What to Expect & How to Prepare

If you’ve been invited to an elopement, congratulations! You’re about to witness an incredibly intimate and meaningful moment in the lives of a couple you love. Unlike traditional weddings, elopements are all about the experience—whether that means hiking to a breathtaking mountain peak, exchanging vows beside an alpine lake, or celebrating with an intimate dinner under the stars. Being an elopement guest is such a unique and special experience and we are so excited for you.

Since elopements are quite different from traditional weddings, it’s natural to have some questions. What should you wear? What should you bring? How can you best support the couple? This guide will help you prepare so you can enjoy the day while ensuring the couple has the incredible experience they’ve dreamed of.

What to Expect at an Elopement

Elopements prioritize the couple’s experience, which means they are often held in unique outdoor locations like mountaintops, lakesides, or remote forests. As a guest, you’ll likely be a part of a small, handpicked group of people who mean the most to them. You might be hiking to the ceremony spot, standing on rocky terrain, or even celebrating with a casual outdoor meal afterward.

Since every elopement is different, be sure to communicate with the couple ahead of time to know what the day will entail so you can be fully prepared. And remember, the couple has been very intentional choosing that this is how they would like to be married and there is no right or wrong way to do so.

You might be asked to take on roles that traditionally other people have done during weddings, like helping to do up the wedding dress, walking a friend down the aisle, signing the marriage license as a witness, or even officiating the ceremony. These personal touches make elopements even more meaningful, allowing loved ones (that’s you!) to play a deeper role in the couples’ wedding day.

What to Wear to an Elopement

Dressing for an elopement is all about balancing looking nice with being comfortable and prepared for the elements. Here are some key things to keep in mind:

1. Check the Weather & Location

Most elopements in the Rocky Mountains take place outdoors, and mountain weather can be unpredictable. Even in the summer, temperatures can drop quickly, and wind is often stronger at higher elevations. Be sure to check the weather forecast and plan accordingly.

2. Dress in Layers

No matter the season, layering is key. The weather can change rapidly in the mountains, so bring warm layers such as a fleece, puffer jacket, or even a windproof/rainproof shell that you do not mind being photographed in. It’s always better to have an extra layer you can remove if needed.

3. Choose the Right Shoes

Elopement locations often require walking or hiking on uneven terrain. Sturdy, closed-toe shoes are usually the best choice. Even if you want to wear dress shoes for the ceremony, bring practical shoes for the journey and really consider wearing flat shoes for the ceremony.

4. Be Mindful of the Environment

Neutral and earth-toned clothing often looks best in outdoor settings. Avoid overly bright or neon colours, as they can be distracting in photos. If you’re unsure, ask the couple if they have a preferred colour palette for guests.

What to Bring to an Elopement

Since elopements often take place in remote locations, it’s a good idea to bring a few essentials to ensure you’re comfortable:

• Water & Snacks – Staying hydrated is important, especially in the mountains.
• Sunscreen & Sunglasses – Even on cloudy days, UV exposure can be strong in the mountains.
• Bug Spray – If the elopement is in the summer, mosquitoes and bugs can be present.
• Hand Warmers – These can be a lifesaver for cold mornings or evening ceremonies.
• Umbrella or Rain Jacket – Mountain weather is unpredictable, so it’s always good to be prepared.

Be Prepared for Limited Cell Service

Many elopement locations in Banff and Kananaskis have little to no cell phone reception, especially once you leave the main roads. This means you won’t be able to rely on your phone for navigation, messages, or calls. To make sure you arrive on time and without stress:

• Download GPS Maps – Use offline maps from Google Maps or Apple Maps before heading out.
• Save Key Info – Take screenshots of directions, meeting points, and any important details.
• Plan Ahead – If you’re carpooling or meeting at a trailhead, confirm plans before losing service.

Being prepared ensures you can fully enjoy the experience without any last-minute scrambling.

Ceremony Etiquette

Being invited to an elopement is a special honour, so here are a few etiquette tips to keep in mind:

1. Be Fully Present

The couple has likely hired a professional photographer to document their day (like us!), so there’s no need to take photos during the ceremony. Instead, be fully present and enjoy the moment with them.

2. Respect the Couple’s Wishes

Every elopement is unique. Some couples may want a quiet, private ceremony, while others may want their guests to participate in a small way. Follow their lead and be supportive of their vision.

3. Keep the Noise Down

Since many elopements take place in nature, be mindful of your volume and avoid loud conversations during key moments. Respect the natural setting and the intimate atmosphere.

4. Be Flexible

One of the best things about elopements is their relaxed and go-with-the-flow nature. Weather shifts, timelines change, and locations may be adjusted—embrace the adventure! And for most of our couples, they have chosen to get married outdoors so they are totally comfortable with the dress dragging in the dirt or picking up some pine needles along the way. We are sure that they appreciate any concern, but do try to just let the couple lead the way on that. Most of our couples love just letting their dress live it’s best life.

Reception & Celebration

Not all elopements have a traditional reception, but there is usually some kind of celebration—whether it’s a mountaintop champagne toast, a picnic, or a cozy dinner back at a cabin.

• If the couple has planned a meal, be sure to RSVP in advance if requested.
• If there’s a cake cutting or toast, enjoy the moment and celebrate with them.
• Offer to help with any setup or cleanup, especially if it’s a DIY-style reception.

Final Thoughts

Being an elopement guest is a unique and special experience. By preparing ahead of time, dressing appropriately, and embracing the adventure, you’ll not only have an amazing time—you’ll also help make the couple’s day even more memorable.

At Elope Wilder, we believe that elopements are about crafting intentional, unforgettable experiences in stunning places. We can’t wait for you to be a part of this adventure!

If you have any questions about what to expect, don’t hesitate to ask the couple or contact us. Otherwise, get ready to celebrate love in the wildest way possible!